That response from the therapist is one of my biggest fears and the main reason I’ve not been able to seriously look for a therapist, though I feel I desperately need one sometimes. I hear things like this all of the time. Therapists shrugging off or belittling things that make people feel torn up inside. It’s not a therapist’s place to decide what’s important to their client. It’s a therapist’s place to help them understand the place of things in their life.
Also, note to self, mock up something for the PU self-submission. That sentence will probably rattle through my head until I die, and it’s still the most chilling thing I’ve ever heard in real life or in fiction.